free workshop: Nervous system regulation for people-pleasers

Nov 16

I did it again.
I got swept up in urgency and forgot to prioritize pleasure in my work. I was supposed to start the online group this week, but life seriously happened and I did not launch it on time. Enter, the critic!

Here's just some of my most polite self-critical thoughts. "I should have done more. I should have known to slow down. I should have prepared earlier. I should have trusted my gut. I've been coaching and counselling burnt-out people-pleasers in their relationships for the last 5 years. So why isn't it built into the bones of each moment of my work??" But as a recovering people-pleaser myself, I know that it's pretty human to get stuck in the familiar grooves of self-criticism.

So. I've shifted my upcoming online group around to be way more tolerable for my own nervous system, and to sustain capacity for grief and rage as we collectively witness violent occupation on Palestine. It will start at the end of the month, and calls will be biweekly. I can feel my diaphragm unsqueezing as I write.

As a thank you for your patience, and as an offering for sustainability in these dysregulating times, next week on Nov 21 I will be online with a by-donation event on nervous system regulation for people-pleasers. Register here!

What to expect from the workshop

I guide you through creative somatic exercises which map out your unique automatic responses to stress, so you can start to identify and regulate those responses without them taking over total control and saturating your nervous system. You build your own tools for practical use in everyday situations.

 🐅Understanding trauma and the fawn response
🐅A visual nervous system map to refer to when experiencing stress & anxiety
🐅Scripts for communicating your emotional state to other people
🐅Your questions about the nervous system answered

Ticket info

All proceeds from this event will be donated to the organization Medical Aid for Palestine (MAP), which you can check out here: https://www.map.org.uk/.

Some of your questions…

I don't know if I'm a people-pleaser. Am I allowed to attend?

This is open to anyone who wants to learn more about their embodied nervous system responses to stress in relationships.

How will this help my specific relationship problem?

Everyone's nervous system is wired in unique configurations, so the processes in this short workshop serve as an overall foundation for you to build with your own experiences.

Is this a therapy session?

while I am a counsellor running creative arts therapy sessions with individuals, this workshop is not therapy and is thus not a confidential space nor a container for deeply processing your material. You may still benefit from the tools offered, as they are designed to support wellbeing.

I can't make it, can I watch the recording?

This is a live event and so recordings will not be available afterwards, except to those who sign up for the full series of Pleasure Paths, a group container for folks struggling with low desire. It starts a week after the event!

**Register for FREE/by donation: Nervous System Regulation for People-Pleasers HERE**

And for those of you who are ready to go all-in, here’s a bit more info about Pleasure Paths.

The energy you spend on saying "yes" when it feels like NO compromises the foundations of your intimate relationships. You may believe caring for others is what you are best at so you keep doing what you have been told is valuable even if it means less space for yourself.

But there there is a need for your unique self expression in the world, messy and imperfect.

In this super high value 4-session embodied and creative group, we lovingly interrogate anxiety around expressing needs and desires in your relationships. The first session is drop-in to see how you feel, and when you sign up for the full series you get access to the recordings INCLUDING Nervous System Regulation so you can watch at your own pace.

Click to take a look at Pleasure Paths here…

More about your facilitator

I'm Susie, I use they/them pronouns. I'm a neurodivergent queer nonbinary femme, a trauma-informed creative arts therapist & somatic coach focussed on sexuality. I'm a nervous system educator, a dancer, a clown, an animist. For the last 5 years I've been guiding burnt-out people-pleasers to create authentic relationships.

I work and play on unceded Haudenosaunee and Anishinaabeg territory of Tio:tia'ke. I pay respect to the land and the legacy of healing arts from which I benefit as a settler. I commit to personal ongoing un/learning of the ways racism and systemic injustice continues to contribute to the oppression of indigenous peoples.

Susie Showers